• Welcome to the Speedsolving.com, home of the web's largest puzzle community!
    You are currently viewing our forum as a guest which gives you limited access to join discussions and access our other features.

    Registration is fast, simple and absolutely free so please, join our community of 40,000+ people from around the world today!

    If you are already a member, simply login to hide this message and begin participating in the community!

Why are speedcubers on SpeedSolving.com so mean?

Are cubers on the forums mean?

  • Yes

    Votes: 40 26.5%
  • No

    Votes: 45 29.8%
  • Maybe a little, but it doesn't bug me.

    Votes: 61 40.4%
  • I don't know

    Votes: 5 3.3%

  • Total voters
    151

sneaklyfox

Member
Joined
Apr 10, 2012
Messages
2,846
Location
Ottawa, Canada
WCA
2013HUNG01
YouTube
Visit Channel
Stefan is older than you. I have never gotten any flak from him whatsoever. Is that unusual?
How old is Stefan? I'm pretty sure he's about the same age. I don't think I've gotten anything from him either.

Stefan is a really nice guy. Like me, he only abuses people who deserve it.
Nobody ever deserves abuse.
 

Yellowsnow98

Member
Joined
Apr 10, 2013
Messages
273
Location
Dublin, Ireland
WCA
2013LACE02
YouTube
Visit Channel
You cannot take criticism. You are are perfect example of why you think people are mean. You are the problem.

Yep.
With you all the way.

Nobody ever deserves abuse.

Most of the time I'd agree, but the occasional person is basically looking for abuse.
And when that happens I will oblige.
 
Last edited:

rybaby

Member
Joined
May 12, 2013
Messages
548
Location
Texas
WCA
2013PRZY02
YouTube
Visit Channel
Not entirely. He does have to get used to Criticism, but Stefan did just make a rude comment. That was Stefan's fault, that he made a rude comment.

Thank you.

As for kirjava: telling others that they are the problem sorta proves my point on rudeness/harshness etc. Thus makes me afraid to attend a competition for fear faster guys would just try to intimidate and insult me.....

Ps could somebody please verify that my username doesn't have a c in it? Rybaby
 

rj

Member
Joined
Mar 26, 2013
Messages
1,454
Location
Rochester, NY
WCA
2015PLAT03
YouTube
Visit Channel
Thank you.

As for kirjava: telling others that they are the problem sorta proves my point on rudeness/harshness etc. Thus makes me afraid to attend a competition for fear faster guys would just try to intimidate and insult me.....

Ps could somebody please verify that my username doesn't have a c in it? Rybaby

No c!! Competitions aren't like that.
 

~Adam~

Member
Joined
Jan 30, 2010
Messages
2,551
Location
Earth
WCA
2011GREE03
People are nicer in person, but hopefully not because they're hiding the fact they think you're stupid or something else. A little politeness goes a long way. I shouldn't have to shove my way around the internet to get a point across.

I am blunt IRL but also polite at the same time. I haven't found an effective way to do that online. Do I need to add an inflection to the end of every comment to soften the blow?
 

sneaklyfox

Member
Joined
Apr 10, 2012
Messages
2,846
Location
Ottawa, Canada
WCA
2013HUNG01
YouTube
Visit Channel
Thank you.

As for kirjava: telling others that they are the problem sorta proves my point on rudeness/harshness etc. Thus makes me afraid to attend a competition for fear faster guys would just try to intimidate and insult me.....

Ps could somebody please verify that my username doesn't have a c in it? Rybaby

Speed has nothing to do with it. It's been said many times already.

About the "c" in username... huh?? Can't tell what point you're making.
 

Yellowsnow98

Member
Joined
Apr 10, 2013
Messages
273
Location
Dublin, Ireland
WCA
2013LACE02
YouTube
Visit Channel
Thank you.

As for kirjava: telling others that they are the problem sorta proves my point on rudeness/harshness etc. Thus makes me afraid to attend a competition for fear faster guys would just try to intimidate and insult me.....

Oh COME ON. Seriously, that would never ACTUALLY happen.

I went to a comp averaging 36 seconds and nobody said anything. All I got was encouraging words. And useful tips.
It never matters how fast you are. What matters is that you enjoy the competition.

You are completely overreacting now.
 

sneaklyfox

Member
Joined
Apr 10, 2012
Messages
2,846
Location
Ottawa, Canada
WCA
2013HUNG01
YouTube
Visit Channel
I am blunt IRL but also polite at the same time. I haven't found an effective way to do that online. Do I need to add an inflection to the end of every comment to soften the blow?

I don't mind blunt but polite. As in my example, "Please be quiet" is not the same as "Shut up". The latter has a tone of rudeness about it. Unfortunately, being clearly polite online requires more words most of the time. And I wasn't really in disagreement about what you said earlier about being a little more blunt about using the word "cuber" or "cubist". I was just voicing an opinion about the use of politeness.

Put something in your sig.

And sneakly, Stefan told him that he missed a c at the beginning of his username.

I know that. Bad joke. Just didn't understand why rybaby requested about having someone verify that the "c" wasn't there. Obviously, it isn't. Was it that rybaby didn't get the joke or because he wanted someone to assert that he was not a crybaby?
 
Last edited by a moderator:

Renslay

Member
Joined
Aug 1, 2011
Messages
1,716
Location
Hungary
WCA
2005HANT01
YouTube
Visit Channel
Note that it is easier to use sarcasm or be a bit harsh in a forum (sitting front of the computer), than in real life, eye-to-eye.

...Except for Stefan. He is exactly the same.
 

Ross The Boss

Member
Joined
Jun 9, 2012
Messages
970
Location
Ontario Canada
WCA
2012SVEN01
YouTube
Visit Channel
noone is being mean. rude sometimes but usually not without justification. you wanna see mean? try going on some other internet forums (particularly wrestling ones. those guys are *******s.).

@rj wanna get faster? try praying to ur god, christian. lol. <-- that is what being mean looks like.

(im not actually being mean, rj, just using youre sig as an example.)
 

rybaby

Member
Joined
May 12, 2013
Messages
548
Location
Texas
WCA
2013PRZY02
YouTube
Visit Channel
I know that. Bad joke. Just didn't understand why rybaby requested about having someone verify that the "c" wasn't there. Obviously, it isn't. Was it that rybaby didn't get the joke or because he wanted someone to assert that he was not a crybaby?

I honestly didn't get it. Rybaby has nothing to do with crybaby; it's been a nickname all my life. I'm fixing to lose it if Stefan makes another joke like that.
 

rj

Member
Joined
Mar 26, 2013
Messages
1,454
Location
Rochester, NY
WCA
2015PLAT03
YouTube
Visit Channel
Note that it is easier to use sarcasm or be a bit harsh in a forum (sitting front of the computer), than in real life, eye-to-eye.

...Except for Stefan. He is exactly the same.

No, it's harder not to.


rybaby said:
I honestly didn't get it. Rybaby has nothing to do with crybaby; it's been a nickname all my life. I'm fixing to lose it if Stefan makes another joke like that.

Don't. He won't.
 

rj

Member
Joined
Mar 26, 2013
Messages
1,454
Location
Rochester, NY
WCA
2015PLAT03
YouTube
Visit Channel
Weren't you saying earlier that Stefan has never given you any sarcasm or abuse.
That's because you don't deserve any.

Well, ben (RIP from the forums) said I did. But, then again, ben was weird.

Yellowsnow98 said:
Not trying to hate on rybaby, but he did need the criticism. Maybe not as harsh as Stefan said but not too much less

Agreed.
 
Last edited:

sneaklyfox

Member
Joined
Apr 10, 2012
Messages
2,846
Location
Ottawa, Canada
WCA
2013HUNG01
YouTube
Visit Channel
I honestly didn't get it. Rybaby has nothing to do with crybaby; it's been a nickname all my life. I'm fixing to lose it if Stefan makes another joke like that.

Ok, I see now. Of course rybaby doesn't have anything to do with crybaby. Maybe just learn to ignore the rude jokes from Stefan or whoever does similar things. I've come to accept that some people online are just going to be mean. But compared to other places I've been, what is seen here on the forum is nothing compared to that. I've been teased most of my elementary school life so I've come to learn to ignore the rudeness/meanness of others or when it's just bluntness, to give the other person the benefit of the doubt. It doesn't bother me anymore in a personal way. Usually I attribute the need to insult and demean others as a sign of a lack of maturity. But really, mostly people are nice here.
 

rj

Member
Joined
Mar 26, 2013
Messages
1,454
Location
Rochester, NY
WCA
2015PLAT03
YouTube
Visit Channel
Ok, I see now. Of course rybaby doesn't have anything to do with crybaby. Maybe just learn to ignore the rude jokes from Stefan or whoever does similar things. I've come to accept that some people online are just going to be mean. But compared to other places I've been, what is seen here on the forum is nothing compared to that. I've been teased most of my elementary school life so I've come to learn to ignore the rudeness/meanness of others or when it's just bluntness, to give the other person the benefit of the doubt. It doesn't bother me anymore in a personal way. Usually I attribute the need to insult and demean others as a sign of a lack of maturity. But really, mostly people are nice here.

And you are the nicest.
 

XTowncuber

Member
Joined
Apr 10, 2013
Messages
1,500
Location
Ohio, USA
WCA
2010BRAD01
YouTube
Visit Channel
Thus makes me afraid to attend a competition for fear faster guys would just try to intimidate and insult me.....
I have been to many comps and I usually talk/sit with the fastest people who are there. This never happens. It's always an encouraging atmosphere, even between the big rivals at big comps. This is such a strange idea, it actually feels ridiculous to me. :p

On topic: When I first found Speedsolving I felt, as you do, like everything posted here was negative. When you get to know the people here, you realize they are not usually being mean. If someone is being mean they are usually called out for it. What you take to be rudeness is often a more experienced member correcting a less experienced one. After a while of reading this forum (I haven't been on for long at all, but I have lurked for years) you get tired of new members asking the same questions that could easily be answered with 1 simple search. People want to be spoon-fed information. More experienced members usually just tell them to figure it out themselves. It's not mean, just teaching them a lesson.
 
Top