Parents threw away cubes

[NevEr_QeyX]

whadda you guys think

Do you ask him like once a day for your cubes?

Hey, my parents have let me buy almost whatever I want, and I learned when I was 9-10 to value each purchase and not waste money, so I think financial mistakes are inevitable and should be made early on instead of later in life when you have lots to lose.

It takes the right kind of person to be responsible with their money.

 

[Sub1Hour]

whadda you guys think

If you have a family member that you have a better relationship, talk to them about how to approach the situation. Also at age 13, you are old enough to be making your own decisions. If your dad does not think that way I'm sorry. The best thing to do at this point is to weigh your options with family members that are a little more open to cubing as a hobby. We don't know your dad as well as your family does and you can come up with ideas based on what your dads tendencies are.

 

[cfopboy]

Do you ask him like once a day for your cubes?


It takes the right kind of person to be responsible with their money.

not once a day, just like once a week cuz I don't wanna ask too much then annoy him and have my ban extended

If you have a family member that you have a better relationship, talk to them about how to approach the situation. Also at age 13, you are old enough to be making your own decisions. If your dad does not think that way I'm sorry. The best thing to do at this point is to weigh your options with family members that are a little more open to cubing as a hobby. We don't know your dad as well as your family does and you can come up with ideas based on what your dads tendencies are.

yea I'll ask my mom about this finger crossed tho

 

[brododragon]

It takes the right kind of person to be responsible with their money.

...And you're never going to be that person if you don't make mistakes. For example, take a black hole. You probably think of it as a mystical wonder instead of a certain death machine. But, if you somehow survive a black hole (impossible, but roll with it), it will become apparent how they should be feared, and are deadly and scary.

 

[NevEr_QeyX]

If you have a family member that you have a better relationship, talk to them about how to approach the situation. Also at age 13, you are old enough to be making your own decisions. If your dad does not think that way I'm sorry. The best thing to do at this point is to weigh your options with family members that are a little more open to cubing as a hobby. We don't know your dad as well as your family does and you can come up with ideas based on what your dads tendencies are.

Hold up 13 Is not old enough to make your own decisions.
17 is where it becomes acceptable
Just act reverently towards your parents and whatever you do don't push it.

 

[cfopboy]

...And you're never going to be that person if you don't make mistakes. For example, take a black hole. You probably think of it as a mystical wonder instead of a certain death machine. But, if you somehow survive a black hole (impossible, but roll with it), it will become apparent how they should be feared, and are deadly and scary.

I get what you mean
sadly I don't think my parents did

 

[NevEr_QeyX]

...And you're never going to be that person if you don't make mistakes. For example, take a black hole. You probably think of it as a mystical wonder instead of a certain death machine. But, if you somehow survive a black hole (impossible, but roll with it), it will become apparent how they should be feared, and are deadly and scary.

I totally agree but some people never stop making mistakes. Hence they need some ground rules to point them in the right direction.

 

[cfopboy]

Hold up 13 Is not old enough to make your own decisions.
17 is where it becomes acceptable
Just act reverently towards your parents and whatever you do don't push it.

yea so far I'm rolling with that but all its gotten me is not getting scolded

 

[brododragon]

Hold up 13 Is not old enough to make your own decisions.
17 is where it becomes acceptable
Just act reverently towards your parents and whatever you do don't push it.

Your a teen, and should be allowed some amount of independency. For example, spending a a bit of money on a hobby you like or think you'll like.

 

[NevEr_QeyX]

Your a teen, and should be allowed some amount of independency. For example, spending a a bit of money on a hobby you like or think you'll like.

Of course but not control over their punishments.

 

[cfopboy]

Your a teen, and should be allowed some amount of independency. For example, spending a a bit of money on a hobby you like or think you'll like.

that's my idea right now but I haven't asked my parents cuz they're gonna scold me and now is not a good time to get on their bad side

 

[Sub1Hour]

Hold up 13 Is not old enough to make your own decisions.
17 is where it becomes acceptable
Just act reverently towards your parents and whatever you do don't push it.

Sorry, I meant to clarify small decisions, like how to spend your money and such. My apologies.

 

[NevEr_QeyX]

yea so far I'm rolling with that but all its gotten me is not getting scolded

And that's great! Parents don't usually give ungrounded consequences, so I don't know just talk to your dad again and be calm and ask for an estimate on return date, that's what I would do.

Sorry, I meant to clarify small decisions, like how to spend your money and such. My apologies.

I don't know about FULL control but yes.

 

[cfopboy]

And that's great! Parents don't usually give ungrounded consequences, so I don't know just talk to your dad again and be calm and ask for an estimate on return date, that's what I would do.

I'm 99 percent sure he'll tell me that they will be returned when I can manage time :/
ill try anyway after school

 

[NevEr_QeyX]

Why do you think he will say that?

I'm pretty sure if you have a good think you'll find the reason. (even if you don't like the answer at least you'll know)

 

[brododragon]

I totally agree but some people never stop making mistakes. Hence they need some ground rules to point them in the right direction.

Of course you need ground rules but they stop becoming ground rules if you can't do anything. That's more like cement rules.

Of course but not control over their punishments.

That's two different topics. I'm not saying he should have control over punishments, be should have control (at least partially) over his financial decisions. After all, they are his decisions. What should happen with punishments is they shouldn’t be that strict.

 

[Sub1Hour]

If they have summer break from school at the same time as the US does in Singapore, maybe once summer starts you can make the case that since you have more free time you can pick cubing back up?

 

[NevEr_QeyX]

Of course you need ground rules but they stop becoming ground rules if you can't do anything. That's more like cement rules.

That's two different topics. I'm not saying he should have control over punishments, be should have control (at least partially) over his financial decisions. After all, they are his decisions. What should happen with punishments is they shouldn’t be that strict.

but what if it is deserved? I mean If I was grounded I would want to make myself look like the victim (which would be easy with such a long lasting punishment) I'm talking about a hypothetical situation at this point

As to your first comment, yes ground rules are supposed to lay the foundations for good money management not straightjacket you into submission

 

[cfopboy]

If they have summer break from school at the same time as the US does in Singapore, maybe once summer starts you can make the case that since you have more free time you can pick cubing back up?

no our nearest break is in june

Why do you think he will say that?

I'm pretty sure if you have a good think you'll find the reason. (even if you don't like the answer at least you'll know)

I guess cuz he thinks that I'm not managing time?

 

[Sub1Hour]

no our nearest break is in june

My school gets out the last week of May. Also, has he specified anything aside from time management reasons that got cubing banned?