Asking a girl to formal...

I asked her how Regionals went (remember that?) and with a cold "fine", she basically sent me on my way...
When i asked the badminton coach (also my neighbour) how she did ("fine" = bad, in my eyes, from her tone of voice), she got 4th! in our region...!!!

Did I ask something wrong or is she just genuinely not interested enough to talk??

I strongly recommend finding her again and congratulating her and complimenting etc. etc. on how well she did.

Dr. Bear is here to help.

I did, she got pissed because she was working on her essay.
When I was asking how THAT was going she got even madder...

I'm thinking she isn't getting enough sleep, but maybe I'm coming off too strong??



LOL! I inspired someone?!?! =OOO

But really, judging by the way you two are, she would say yes. Just do something. Don't be shy, don't rehearse any lines (but plan out how you would ask) and do it. Hey, I was rejected, but I at least know I tried.

Yes, you did.
It's not that I'm afraid of rejection, I'm afraid of my stability after the rejection...

I tend to be an off-the-handle type of person, especially since this happened twice before...
 
It's obvious that it's a sensitive topic to her, so just let it go, and talk about something else. And maybe her essay was due soon or she felt it was horrible or something, so you just picked an annoying issue to her, one after another.

If you feel that you are in good terms (I suggest checking as she seemed pissed from your previous posts... don't ask her directly though, just go and say hi), then you could do it my way.

No frills, just ask her "Are you going to the prom?" and if she says yes, ask her if she has a date.

This gives her a hint that you're asking her, and lets her bail out by making up excuses if she doesn't want to go with you. Because girls don't like giving rejections either.

If she says no, she doesn't have a date, then just casually say "I'll pick you up at around 8 then?". Throw in a smile and a wink if it fits your style.

You can easily pass it off as if you were just kidding around if she says no, and if she doesn't, you're in.
 
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It's obvious that it's a sensitive topic to her, so just let it go, and talk about something else. And maybe her essay was due soon or she felt it was horrible or something, so you just picked an annoying issue to her, one after another.

If you feel that you are in good terms (I suggest checking as she seemed pissed from your previous posts... don't ask her directly though, just go and say hi), then you could do it my way.

No frills, just ask her "Are you going to the prom?" and if she says yes, ask her if she has a date.

This gives her a hint that you're asking her, and lets her bail out by making up excuses if she doesn't want to go with you. Because girls don't like giving rejections either.

If she says no, she doesn't have a date, then just casually say "I'll pick you up at around 8 then?". Throw in a smile and a wink if it fits your style.

You can easily pass it off as if you were just kidding around if she says no, and if she doesn't, you're in.
Good advice. I am just guessing that bundat isn't a 13 year old boy
 
just ask her or you'll regret it. don't worry about her being two years younger, there are plenty of those kind of couples at our school
 
Come on bro, I'm going through the same thing with my school prom. I know how you feel and how nervous the whole shebang can be.

BUT, you will really regret it later if you don't ask her. Get over your whole stability issue, get over your feelings, just go with your feelings for her (if you have any left). Although I can't go to prom now, I felt much better about myself after actually asking. You will feel the same.
 
Yeah man, just go for it and who knows, she will probably say yes.

I was in a situation not unlike yours a while back where there was a certain someone I was admiring from afar. For the longest time I couldn't even muster up the courage to talk to them, so you have already beaten me in that department. I am a pretty shy guy and I am not one to just spark up a conversation with anyone. anyway, I finally started talking to this person and it turns out they were into the same kinds of stuff I am, music, hobbies, games and all that junk.
We saw each other outside school a lot more often, and finally prom was coming up and I saw all the girls getting excited and the boys were all anxious, and I felt the exact same way as the boys. I was nervous about asking this one person I have been getting closer with for months, but all my friends encouraged me and I finally did.
We had a great time together in the end, it was a lot of fun, and my date told me that he really liked me all along and was glad that I started talking to him.
 
Yeah man, just go for it and who knows, she will probably say yes.

I was in a situation not unlike yours a while back where there was a certain someone I was admiring from afar. For the longest time I couldn't even muster up the courage to talk to them, so you have already beaten me in that department. I am a pretty shy guy and I am not one to just spark up a conversation with anyone. anyway, I finally started talking to this person and it turns out they were into the same kinds of stuff I am, music, hobbies, games and all that junk.
We saw each other outside school a lot more often, and finally prom was coming up and I saw all the girls getting excited and the boys were all anxious, and I felt the exact same way as the boys. I was nervous about asking this one person I have been getting closer with for months, but all my friends encouraged me and I finally did.
We had a great time together in the end, it was a lot of fun, and my date told me that he really liked me all along and was glad that I started talking to him.

Yeah go for it. Or you'll be old like me and regret you never asked that girl to dance when you were in 6th grade.
 
Yeah go for it. Or you'll be old like me and regret you never asked that girl to dance when you were in 6th grade.

o_O;; this isn't six grade, Tyson!! -- I'm pretty "frail" (wow, I'm pathetic) as it is....

Come on bro, I'm going through the same thing with my school prom. I know how you feel and how nervous the whole shebang can be.

BUT, you will really regret it later if you don't ask her. Get over your whole stability issue, get over your feelings, just go with your feelings for her (if you have any left). Although I can't go to prom now, I felt much better about myself after actually asking. You will feel the same.

I dunno, she seemed pretty pissed when I tried talking to her on MSN last night, she seemed really cranky and annoyed...

I remember back when we first talked we literally stayed up until like 3am every night we could and just talked about stuff on MSN...

She showed me her artwork a lot (after practice, on MSN, etc...) and I always said great things (dude, they were ALWAYS great, though... o_o) while she kept saying how bad they were... xD

we even made a parody of canadian english, hahaha...
It was basically that we add the letter that came last in the word in again, and add an "e"...

So tree became "treeee" LOLOLOL (we both thought it was hilarious, then we realized we needed more rules, so we said "no vowels, if the word already ends in a double consonant we would just add e, like "balle")...

LOL her name became so funny in our language, mine just became Michaelle.... ROFL.

How I miss those days... Badminton season is basically over... T_T;;

Stability? Don't tell me you'll cry over it just because some girl said no to a dance.

Dude, I cried after I failed my chemistry test third period today.
I failed because out of the 5 problems, I completed one, and started (but got nowhere with) the other 4.

@bundat: She's in 10th grade, I'm in 12th. she's PROBABLY NOT GOING, since I'm probably one of like five grade 12 people that know who she is.
 
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Ask her why she is annoyed. Maybe you did something (only a maybe) to annoy her, or maybe it is something else. If she does decide to spill it onto you, just try to be comforting and kind, which you already sound like you are. Then, once she has unloaded (If she does), then maybe you should ask her. dunno if this helps at all.....
 
Dude, if you are a senior and she's a sophomore, then you got much better chance of her saying yes. JUST DO IT. You will feel MUCH better if you ask (even if she says no).
 
Ask her why she is annoyed. Maybe you did something (only a maybe) to annoy her, or maybe it is something else. If she does decide to spill it onto you, just try to be comforting and kind, which you already sound like you are. Then, once she has unloaded (If she does), then maybe you should ask her. dunno if this helps at all.....

Currently on MSN... will update as things happen.

Maybe she's annoyed because she expected you to have asked her by now;)

ROFL I wish..

I just remember that one time I sat beside her in the caf and was sort of loud when I was talking, and she got up and left without a word to me or anything...

Might have been that.

Dude, if you are a senior and she's a sophomore, then you got much better chance of her saying yes. JUST DO IT. You will feel MUCH better if you ask (even if she says no).

I dunno man, I doubt her being a sophomore gives me a better chance of her saying yes, it might just compel her to say no because "she's not old enough yet"...


WTF...
 
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