Why on earth would you be negative toward yourself?
I can think of a lot of reasons. For me in particular:
I'm ugly;
I'm not smart enough;
I'm not as sporty as I'd like;
I have no social skills;
I am not independant enough.
The list goes on.
Dene, with all due respect, those are not reasons why you are negative to yourself. Those are just things that you are negative to yourself
about.
Could you please flesh out the difference between "why I am negative to myself", and "what I am negative to myself about"? I'm sure whatever the difference is, I could rephrase my list so that it fits.
Why am I negative to myself: because I do not like myself
What am I negative to myself about: The fact that I do not like myself
Why am I negative to myself: I do not like what I look like
What I am negative to myself about: The fact that I do not like what I look like
Maybe I'm completely missing the point?
BTW, just to be clear, I don't actually care about my looks, but it's always something fun to insult about myself, because people always come out with things like "don't say that" and "oh come on, don't be silly" etc. This reminds me of one of my favourite passages by Kierkegaard, which I may as well put here, although it is quite a mouthful (I'll skip the first sentence):
"...When I was young, I forgot how to laugh...; when I was older, I opened my eyes and beheld reality, at which I began to laugh, and since then I have not stopped laughing. I saw that the meaning of life was to secure a livelihood, and that its goal was to attain a high position; that love's rich dream was marriage with an heiress; that friendship's blessing was help in financial difficulties; that wisdom was what the majority assumed it to be; that enthusiasm consisted in making a speech; that it was courage to risk the loss of ten dollars; that kindness consisted in saying, "You are welcome," at the dinner table; that piety consisted in going to communion once a year. This I saw, and I laughed."
Like all of Kierkegaard's work, the actual meaning is open to interpretation. The way I see it is that there are all these silly social customs, and looking at them externally it is like a joke. I take the same view of life. I think it is amusing watching people and their "social manners" when you take a negative approach to yourself. Personally, I call it realistic, or "the truth". Yes I truly think I am ugly and so on, no I don't care. (Sorry for going off topic, I just didn't want you to worry about me being suicidal or something).