Do you get angry/self-frustrated while cubing? why not?

[a small kitten]

Btw the main point of meditation is to recieve enlightenment, not relax.

You sound like you're correcting him or something. He never claimed anything related to the main point of meditation.

Anyway, I have a pretty horrible temper. It's really tough when you do only one event. Once you get angry, there's no other place to go (like switch event). I just have to keep reminding myself that getting angry isn't productive and goes against my long term goals.

 

[Noahaha]

I put all my anger into practicing for next time.

 

[JasonK]

Btw the main point of meditation is to recieve enlightenment, not relax.

The main point of meditation is whatever you get out of meditating. If it's relaxing to him, then the point of it is relaxation.

 

[NevinsCPH]

I am always frustrated for dnfs on big cubes BLD too at home, it feels like lots of time wasted but I think it'll help in experience, when I get angry, I just fail to concentrate on the cube then I would do something else instead of cubing.

 

[pdilla]

People would die if they spent a day in my mind. Honestly, I think I am slightly insane/delusional, but I can hide it if I need too. But once it comes free... Oh man...

I feel you bro. People would need to spend some time in a mental hospital after experiencing a day of my mental life.

 

[CHJ]

I feel you bro. People would need to spend some time in a mental hospital after experiencing a day of my mental life.

My mind is full of useless blind memo's, ponies, death metal, and numbers like 43046721^2=1853020188851841 (genuine favourite number), filled to the brim with caffeine and rage, im not necessarily insane but i have a lot of useless stuff that clogs my brain

 

[ben1996123]

1853020188851841 (genuine favourite number)

why?

 

[Owen]

why?

I assume it's because it's a perfect square, and a perfect 4th, 8th, 16th, and 32nd power.

 

[byliu88]

I've found the cause of extreme anger in a short period of time is when I find myself not concentrating on the cube, but on mental chatter (don't tell me I am mad... everyone has this, don't lie). I find my mind wandering, and get irritated at myself for doing it. The more I try to stop the mental thingies, the more I start mentally chatting about trying to stop mentally chatting.

I never get angry when I cube, but I totally understand that mental chatter you're talking about. How sometimes I realize that my mind wanders while I'm cubing which is pretty much more mental chatter. That happens A LOT.

 

[Pokerizer]

Cubing is my stress relief, I have 5 kids and one on the way so I try and enjoy the escape. I do get frustrated sometimes when I get to the point I cant seem to ever get my F2L right but after some very informative slow solving vids I've seen I learned to just slow down and relax. It helps my look ahead and my times drop again after just a few solves. Then I just go back to it.

 

[CHJ]

I assume it's because it's a perfect square, and a perfect 4th, 8th, 16th, and 32nd power.

Correct! Its a lot of fun to mess around with!

 

[Kirjava]

U MAD BRO?

 

[sneaklyfox]

Something else that makes a bad solve... unintentional turns...

 

[5BLD]

Something else that makes a bad solve... unintentional turns...

Indeed. Do you ever do something like u when trying to do an R?

 

[5BLD]

I jut got angry again and just had to stop. I found the main thought was, "You've gotten 7.4x avg100s! Why the f*** would you struggle to get 7.8s?"

I see the main feeling is just disappointment. It's not helplessness---it's disappointment because something which should be very easy is hard. I am not sure how to deal with this. I am left feeling very unhappy and dissatisfied with myself; I haven't managed to get any avg12s today at all (I reset the session repeatedly) and not even motivated to practise for the rest of today. I know I am tired. But I still am feeling I can do much better than this and will not be happy until I do.

I can look back and see how irrational the anger is yet I know if I start solving now I will suck and get very angry again. The very fact I say "I know I will suck" is another point about psychology. How do I know? I know nothing. Yet it seems to fulfil itself whenever I think it.

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P.S. My mum always likes to call me "obsessive and compulsive" when I get upset. Not even when I am angry, but just unhappy, and I immediately think "obsessive, perhaps, compulsive I think you don't know what that means". She is constantly firing at me medical terms which don't even make sense in the context, but are just generally 'scary' words; she reads a lot but I am for some reason unsure she knows what she is talking about. I do try to see from her point of view but the best I get is 'delusions' of what the situation appears to be like if this makes sense.

Anyway enough whinging from me. It feels kinda therapeutic to 'confess' everything.

 

[Escher]

If cubing is negatively affecting your emotional state - take a break.

At the end of the day you do this for fun; if you continue to grind cubing you'll reinforce those negative feelings of disappointment even if you do perform well - you'll just dig a deeper emotional trench that you'll remember in later sessions and will literally come back to haunt you next time you're solving badly.

A corollary of this is that next time you sit down to compete you'll be aware of those bad sessions and that you can perform badly even if you try hard - that was/is my main issue with performance in competition.

So yeah, take a break, and take as long as you need - you ought to know that any cubing in that time where you ought to be taking a break will at best be normal, and most likely be sub-standard and reinforce negative associations.

 

[Kirjava]

Sometimes you can just be having a bad day.

 

[Noahaha]

Bad session->different way of practicing works every time.

 

[uberCuber]

Obviously, being tired from the rest of the day or from having a lot of other things to worry about can often negatively affect cubing, but I've found that, for me anyway, the reverse is also often true. Even if I feel fine when I first start, after I start doing badly for awhile, I can feel myself becoming extremely mentally exhausted. It very quickly gets to the point where I feel so tired that there is literally no point in continuing to cube right then, even switching to a different event or whatever, because anything I do would be sluggish, both my turnspeed and thinking speed. Then a couple hours later after taking a long break from cubing (and usually eating something), my mental capacity feels back to normal.

And after typing that I'm not sure what the point was of typing that. I guess it's just a random observation I had

 

[Ollie]

P.S. My mum always likes to call me "obsessive and compulsive" when I get upset.

I obviously don't know your mum or what tone of voice she uses when she says this to you, but I wouldn't always class those traits as negative. You're obviously a highly motivated, driven person who has a target in mind and will pursue something until it is perfected. This can be a brilliant trait to have and with it you have the potential to do some really good things, in whatever you try.

But just to parrot what Rowan says, try pursuing that energy into something else for a while or you'll get stuck in an endless anxious cycle.

And don't go overboard and put too much pressure on yourself! Drive is obviously good, but this is a flaw I possess and it really isn't a good thing IMO.